3 most effective aphrodisiacs that will make a man fall in love with you | Joy Nordenstrom
People were talking about aphrodisiac foods and their ability to increase sex drive in men and women for hundreds of years.
But few have honed in on the science-based reasons why natural aphrodisiacs are a key supplement to advancement, passionate long-term relationshipsnor did they explain why the order in which you eat certain types of food and drink is a key factor in determining whether or not you will benefit from them.
For starters, let’s make sure you understand the basics.
Aphrodisiac is an agent that enhances sexual desire and increases behavior that makes sex attainable and enjoyable. Essentially, these agents boost your libido, helping you get into the right mood to feel and act sexy.
Your libido, or sex drive, is defined as “a person’s overall sexual drive or desire for sexual activity.”
To fully understand the effects of aphrodisiacs, it’s important to first gain a basic understanding of the chemicals, hormones, and neurotransmitters at play when you first fall in love, since these are the same agents you hope to bring into play when you eat or drink an aphrodisiac.
The initial rush you feel at the beginning of a relationship induces a feeling of euphoria in the brain, somewhat similar to the feeling of being “high” on cocaine.
This is what creates and strengthens the initial foundation of loving memories. These “love drugs” heighten all five of your senses, help you focus on your love, give you more energy and stamina, paint memories in your mind, and make you feel good.
Truth be told, however, your body is not meant to release these chemicals continuously and over long periods of time.
Increased levels of adrenaline, endorphins, PEA and norepinephrine will tax your body and brain over time. Plus, it’s hard to function properly in other environments when love completely takes over your mind.
Once you’re in a relationship after a few months or a few years, your chemistry is designed to shift from that initial high to producing more of your bonding chemicals and hormones instead. This change is marked by an increase in serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin, and a decrease in testosterone, all of which should keep you and your love together for the long haul.
Research shows that couples who regularly do new things together have better and more satisfying relationships.
These new and exciting experiences re-invigorate the production of that chemical cocktail you sipped during the initial stages of falling in love, once again enhancing special moments and strengthening your intimate relationship.
This extra boost becomes more critical over time and will not happen automatically. Those moments of re-excitement should be deliberately nurtured.
In order to take full advantage of the benefits offered by aphrodisiac foods, you must first engage your brain.
By engaging all five senses and becoming aware of your emotional state with background music and a seductive atmosphere, you will begin to produce endorphins, which in turn stimulate more dopamine production.
These two neurochemicals work in tandem, ensuring that the experience evokes a strong, steady stream of pleasurable sensations.
Norepinephrine is then added to the mix, boosting memory, improving learning and sharpening your ability to stay focused. It also has positive effects on your arousal, reward system, mood and blood pressure. An increase in norepinephrine can also help you temporarily dismiss worries and distractions so that you can have a satisfying sexual experience with your partner.
Dopamine and norepinephrine are synthesized in the body using the amino acids tyrosine and phenylalanine.
Protein-rich foods such as red meat, poultry, seafood, and hard cheeses increase tyrosine levels, helping to metabolize norepinephrine.
Humans do not produce phenylalanine internally, so we must find it in our diet. Good sources include dairy products, avocados, nuts, seeds, legumes, leafy greens, whole grains, poultry, fish, some seafood, and some diet drinks.
The only neurotransmitter you need to reduce to get the full aphrodisiac effect is serotonin, since lower serotonin levels allow you to hyperfocus on your love.
The primary goal of a meal designed with aphrodisiac foods is to keep serotonin levels super low.
That means keeping tryptophan—an amino acid known for helping people fall asleep on Thanksgiving—out of the picture. If tryptophan hits your system before tyrosine, your mood and internal chemistry will be relaxed and calm, instead of excited and full of increased energy.
This means putting away the bread before you eat your protein.
Here are 3 categories of aphrodisiacs for men and women who want to quickly increase their libido:
1. Those involving all five senses
The first category contains those aphrodisiac agents that cause full engagement of your senses, enveloping you and your love before the first sense of taste enters your mouth.
It’s the way you prepare and initially make contact with your love on a date – the music you listen to while getting dressed, the thoughts about what your partner would like to see you wear while choosing your outfit, the way you design the environment, stir up romantic feelings with with fresh flowers, candles and a list of favorite songs.
These things stimulate your endorphins to set the stage for a night of pleasure.
As Dr. Ruth Westheimer says, “When it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between the ears.”
So, the first step towards a night of passion begins with mentally preparing yourself to take full advantage of the benefits of aphrodisiac foods. creating a romantic atmosphere.
2. Substances, foods and drinks that give you an instant effect
The second category is what most people think of as aphrodisiacs – substances that immediately increase arousal as soon as they enter your system.
These include alcohol, paprika (spicy foods), foods and spices with certain smells that an individual finds arousing, ginger, Ginkgo Biloba, and foods or supplements that give you a super dose of vitamin E — like spinach, avocados, nuts, sunflower seeds, and squash .
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3. Nutrients that should be in your diet regularly
The third category includes nutrients you should always have in your system to reach peak condition, such as zinc, vitamin C, iron, iodine, and vitamin E.
It’s true that what’s good for your heart is good for your sex life. A complete, balanced diet full of these nutrients helps keep stress low, your senses engaged, your focus on love, your blood circulation strong, and your energy and stamina levels high.
Remember that the order in which you consume aphrodisiacs is important.
If you drink alcohol, preparing a cocktail in your mouth will immediately give you dopamine, which, in cooperation with endorphins, reinforces the meaning and pleasure you derive from your magical evening. For the ladies, you’ll get an extra dose of testosterone trigger your sexual desirealso.
Your first snack should always be protein. This promotes energy, endurance, focus and strong circulation of blood and oxygen throughout the body.
A high-protein, low-carb meal raises dopamine levels.
And above all, don’t eat carbs or excessive amounts of sugar before protein, so try to save carbs and sugar for dessert.
Now you are ready for the excitement and feel sexy all night.
Joy Nordenstrom is a relationship coach helping men and women overcome attachment issues and build healthy relationship skills that foster lasting love.