A good balance: juggling caregiving and a full-time job

A good balance: juggling caregiving and a full-time job

My life changed so quickly. My mother suffered a mild stroke and subsequent pulmonary embolism. She was hospitalized twice and also struggled with the onset of dementia. My mom has always been so independent, even to the point of joining my friends and I for the occasional Happy Hour (before COVID 19). But now she really needed my help. Her memory wasn’t that good anymore, and although she wasn’t disabled, she did need help keeping up with her medications, doctor appointments, and light housework.

Of course, around the time my mom got sick, my corporate job was busier than ever. I often found myself working long hours, albeit at home, to keep up with things while also trying to keep an eye on mom. Any life I had outside of work and my mom seemed to disappear. Burnout was on the horizon.

Juggling caregiving and full-time work is not unusual. According to researchers, in 2014 there were approximately 23.9 million caregivers who also had an outside job. So how do you find a balance between caregiving and full-time work? Here are some things I learned:

Juggling caregiving and full-time work is not unusual. According to the researchers, in 2014 there were approximately 23.9 million caregivers who also had outside jobs. So how do you find a balance between caregiving and full-time work? Here are some things I learned:

I’m getting organized. This means organizing your life so that you can be efficient in both your care and your work. I started my morning an hour earlier than usual. That way, I was able to get in some morning meditation, eat breakfast, and get to work on my paperwork before I was swamped with emails and phone calls. I also created a calendar for my mom so she could easily keep track of her doctor’s appointments. The family invested in a 30-day pill box with an alarm, which made it easy for my mom to know which pills to take and when.

Reach out for help. Even though my sisters lived on the opposite coast, they came to help take care of my mother. Although a full-time nurse was not necessary, we were able to get a nurse to come in twice a week to check on my mother and her medications. The home care nurse was covered by Medicare. This help from others was invaluable. I was able to regroup and make time for things that needed my attention at home.

Take time for yourself even if you only have 30 minutes to spare, spend them on yourself. “Me time” can be used for relaxation, meditation, spending time with friends, or just a long bath. You should also take care of your health. Exercise like a nice walk and eat well. If you start to feel unwell, take the time to seek medical attention. You cannot help a loved one if you are not healthy.

Talk to others who may be in the same situation. Reach out to peers who have also cared for a sick or aging loved one. These people are not only a source of wisdom and encouragement, but they will help you feel that you are not alone.

It’s never easy to juggle caring and full-time work. But if you have a plan, both are possible.

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