Do women follow their men or just check them out?

Do women follow their men or just check them out?

Did you know that 70% of women follow or check up on their men? If you didn’t know now you do. Some of the women claim that they don’t actually follow their men, they are only concerned about their well-being and only checking on them.

The whole issue of ladies checking up on their men/boyfriends as they claim has become a heated discussion nowadays. There are various reasons why this happens. These reasons can be divided into two categories: What women say as well as what men say regarding the same.

I have dedicated today’s article to exploring this social problem that threatens to destroy many relationships and marriages.

In fact, women will do the following things to check their men:

Check their spouses’ Facebook accounts

Read your wife’s cell phone messages

Check your significant other’s pants and shirt pockets for documents

Checking signs of each mystery cologne

Investigate any change in behaviour, e.g. refusal to eat food at night.

Well, let’s look at the various arguments surrounding this development.

A. What do the women claim?
Women will check or follow their men for the following reasons.

me For Love.
According to 60% of women, they do not follow their men, as most men claim, but only check on their relatives. They do this out of love. In fact, a famous R&B musician from the United States of America (USA) said in his song that “when a woman loves, she loves for real.”

Women claim to feel satisfied when they check up on their men. Most of these women ask themselves, “If I don’t get it checked out, who will?” In other words, if they don’t check them, someone else will.

Because of the love they feel for their husbands or boyfriends; they can’t help but check how they are progressing. So, it is not that they are following them as the majorities claim.

ii. Insecurity developed by the behavior of their husbands.
Some women say they check on their men to make sure they’re safe because they feel insecure whenever they’re not together. The uncertainty arises from the fact that men engage in different activities while rushing for their family as well as when relaxing. As a result, they can fall victim to some horrible acts. This causes their wives to check on them to make sure they are safe wherever they are at any given moment.

On the other hand, some men are drunkards; as a result, they fall victim to terrible situations such as being involved in an accident or even being accused by the authorities of drunk driving (traffic violation). Having helped their husbands in some of these situations in the past, women fear that their husbands may become victims again. For this reason, they will always check them to make sure they are safe.

iii. Lack of trust
Some ladies claim that they are forced to follow or check up on their men due to a lack of trust. They note that some men are very promiscuous and cannot be trusted. The fear of their men messing with other women makes them keep checks. If men want their women to stop checking up on them, then they need to build trust by being faithful.

B. What do the men say?
According to men, the following are the reasons why some women follow their men or check them out as they claim.

I. Because of uncertainty.
Some men claim that most women follow their men because they are insecure. They claim that there is a famous saying that has come up that affects the way most of them relate to their men. As the saying goes, “A man is only yours when you’re with him.” Most women tend to believe this adage so much that they constantly call their husbands to claim that they are checking up on them.

What men forget is that they are the cause of this insecurity. The way men behave when they are away from their partners creates a lot of insecurity. When women feel safe, they develop trust and will not follow or check up on their men from time to time.

ii. Because she’s been hurt in the past
There is a group of men who claim that women who follow their husbands have been hurt before. They fear that the same terrible things could happen again in their current relationship or marriage. The fear that her current man, for example, will cheat on her, makes the lady constantly call her man. A woman goes out of her way to make sure she doesn’t go through the same hardships she once had. Men should treat their partners well and they can rest assured that they won’t be bothered with constant conversations throughout the day.

iii. Lack of trust
Lack of trust, according to men, is the reason for constant calls from their partners. They claim that their partners’ lack of trust causes them to bother them with “unnecessary calls”.

Trust is as integral to a relationship as it is to a marriage. Lack of trust leads to a change in behavior and is a major reason why women tend to monitor their husbands, for example looking at their husband’s mobile phone to check messages. On the other hand, there is nothing wrong with a lady checking up on her man. It just shows that she cares about him and doesn’t want anything bad to happen to him.

Men need to understand that their wives are checking them out, but not following them. But if necessary, due to a change in the man’s behavior, women will do it. She watches over her husband as she loves him and feels insecure when he is gone.

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