For Men – 11 Signs You’re In A Codependent Relationship – And How To Get Out
It is often obvious that a needy, demanding woman who clings to a man has codependent tendencies. After all, a relationship consists of two people, and HE is no less responsible. In fact, his behavior can also be labeled as “codependent”. Two people who tend to be codependent may act in opposite ways: While one is needy and drains their partner, the other may have an extended sense of responsibility towards their partner and be overly sensitive to her needs and demands.
In fact, people with opposite codependency styles tend to attract each other. These opposite psychological profiles are called “takers” and “carers.”
Codependent relationships are complex and often characterized by manipulation, lack of boundaries, repressed emotions, emotional volatility, jealousy
problems, verbal abuse, etc. Both partners tend to have complicated histories that often serve to justify unusual behavior. If you’re a man who feels stuck in a codependent relationship, realize that your happiness is worth the effort it takes to move forward.
First, look at this list, which identifies only some of the signs to look for:
- You feel responsible for her and it’s your job to make her happy and solve her problems
- You suppress your emotions and avoid confrontation
- You feel like you’re sacrificing the life you want so you can be with her and take care of her
- Sometimes you feel trapped and you feel like you are planning an eventual escape
- You feel immense guilt at the thought of leaving her
- She is extremely jealous and makes it difficult for you to socialize with other women or have girlfriends
- She has a strong fear of rejection and abandonment
- She lives her life in a way that depends on you for many of her needs instead of being independent and having a variety of fulfilling relationships
- She has expressed that she will not be able to live her life if you betray or abandon her
- She depends almost exclusively on you as her source of happiness and validation
- She dominates and manipulates you through her emotional response, which is often too extreme
These are just some of the signs that are easiest to spot from a man’s point of view. If you feel like you might be in a codependent relationship or feel like you’re trapped and there’s no way out, at most. Being in a codependent relationship leads to a stressful and unhappy lifestyle. Yet your avoidant tendencies may prevent you from following through on a breakup or breakup.
You may have been planning to break up for a long time, but you just keep holding back – many men wait years or even a lifetime to stay in such a relationship. It is important not to engage in planning and take certain actions quickly. If you feel ready to start the separation process, DO NOT hesitate: the longer you wait and the more time you both invest, the harder it gets.
You might consider getting the help of a counselor. Make sure the wizard doesn’t assume you want to maintain the connection if you decide to go ahead; many counselors operate from the assumption that the relationship needs to be “fixed”.
Finally, many men are in dire need of a card that:
1) Identify what is dysfunctional in your relationship
2) It affirms your right to leave an unhappy relationship
3) Guide you through the breakup in a way that minimizes pain and hardship for both of you
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