Signs and Symptoms of a Cheating Spouse or Partner
The signs and symptoms of a wayward spouse or partner can be either very subtle and difficult to detect, or obvious and blatant.
1. Your husband suddenly takes a strong interest in new music, when he never had an interest in it before.
2. You notice your spouse or loved one making comments about a movie you know you didn’t watch together; like “Yeah, that was great” or “That movie was really bad”, “Oh, I love the role when…”
3. Your laundry-averse man suddenly loves doing his own laundry—that said, he also seems to schedule his laundry duties soon after he gets home.
4. The classic lipstick on the collar or other parts of his shirt. Also pay attention to an inexplicable shine.
5. Another obvious red flag is the smell of another man or woman’s cologne or perfume on their clothes or hair.
6. Sex techniques and styles suddenly become extremely different and foreign to you. I’m talking outside the norm here. You may find yourself in positions you’ve never held together before, or be asked to do things you’ve never been asked to do before.
7. Sex itself can take unexpected turns in terms of frequency. Your wayward husband may suddenly want more sex than your normal routine, or drastically reduce his desire altogether.
8. Your partner’s mood has changed. You notice that he/she is already having a temper, is quick to click, or may be deliberately arguing with you to justify leaving the house to “Drive to Think”.
9. You may notice that they suddenly keep their cell phones on silent and attached to their body at all times; whereas before the telephone was kept ringing and placed safely and easily within reach somewhere in a room of the home.
10. You may notice that the mobile phone completely gives up. He/she may lock the mobile phone in the car at all and not bring it home at all.
11. Cell phone bills stop coming home. When you look up the bill online, you see a pattern of the same number/numbers calling.
12. You had access to your mobile phone account online, but the password suddenly changed.
13. Household chores and duties become neglected. You notice that your partner spends more time on the Internet or literally lazes on the sofa, not caring about the maintenance of the house. He/she is in a foggy state thinking about the other person.
14. Time spent with family also decreases. Interest in weekend activities with yourself and children, attending children’s sports games, time spent alone with you, such as date nights, etc., significantly decreases.
15. More and more sudden and inexplicable “Commands” keep popping up on the agenda.
16. You notice that your significant other is taking a drastic new interest in their appearance. You may notice a huge amount of new clothes, new colognes or perfumes, new hairstyles, new shoes, new and different underwear being bought.
17. You may also notice a sudden diet and exercise regimen that is on. They may also have subscribed to a health club to get in better shape.
18. You may notice that the Internet browser history is always deleted. This is a huge red flag to pay attention to. Anyone who erases everything from history has something to hide.
19. You might actually be accused of having an affair.
20. You notice that your partner talks and talks and talks about the opposite sex. He/she may even try to disguise this person and claim that he/she is gay and has nothing to worry about.
21. You notice when you come face-to-face with your partner’s colleagues that they become erratic and restless in your company, often with very little to say to you or only offering nervous chatter.
22. Same with mutual friends. If mutual friends suddenly become uneasy around you, they probably know something is up.
23. Using new slang terms. If your partner suddenly becomes passionate about a new form of language expression, even though they have never said such words before, this is a sign and a red flag to pay attention to.
24. The car’s mileage doesn’t match what he/she tells you he/she drives. If you notice a sudden upward or downward spiral in the car’s mileage, there is probably a problem.
25. You suddenly get a huge amount of disconnects on your home phone; and therefore the incoming number may be blocked by the caller.
26. You are suddenly left out of functions, such as holiday parties or awards dinners; whereas before that, spouses or significant others were always welcome.
27. You suddenly find yourself showered with unexplained gifts or proposals for unusual expenses; usually unrelated to holidays, birthdays, etc… “Just because” gifts are nice and all, but if your partner is usually tight-lipped and thrifty and suddenly showers you with stunning material items, it could be a feeling for guilt. You know your partner better than anyone, so if his/her spending habits towards you suddenly jump, it might be something you need to be aware of.
28. Your partner, who was once nonchalant about your daily plans and activities, may suddenly decide to constantly inquire about them. If your partner suddenly wants to know your detailed plans for the day, such as the time you leave home, the places you’ll actually be, and the time you’ll return home, he/she can make sure the coast is clear about his own activities.
29. Your husband, who once only spent with a credit card and no cash, suddenly has large amounts of unaccounted money in his wallet.
30. Finding condoms in his wallet or car when you already have your tubes tied or are on the pill.
31. Finding male pills or Viagra in his car or briefcase.
32. You notice on the cell phone bill that he/she often uses a calling card. Using a calling card on a cell phone prevents the cell phone company from registering the actual phone number dialed.
33. You’re married, but find yourself being introduced to new people by your significant other (like at a party or event) as his “first wife” or her “first husband.”
34. Your partner, who isn’t usually “Down There” with a manicure, suddenly starts waxing or shaving.
35. You start to notice the new habit of your significant other leaving the wedding ring at home before going to work. This may be obvious and in a prominent place, for example in the bathroom; or you might accidentally find the ring hidden somewhere, like in a closet. After he/she gets home, you notice that he/she is being dressed again. When you run into this problem, you’ll probably get an inappropriate excuse like “The ring is too tight or it’s getting in the way of my work.”
36. You notice unexplained scratches, hiccups, or bruises on delicate parts of his body, such as his neck, chest, chest, or genital areas.
37. You notice on a group (work related) signed greeting/holiday card that someone of the opposite gender signs their name with a drawn heart at the end or signs it with “Love”.
38. You find a “Just Because” thank you card from a member of the opposite sex tucked into his/her briefcase, thanking him/her for the “Special Friendship” they have and thanking them for all the “Help or Advice” I give; and that they cannot imagine life without them in it.
39. Unreported gift-like items appear in the home such as special cufflinks, ties, cologne/perfume, underwear/underwear, or jewelry that you know you did not give to your spouse.
40. That unpleasant and disturbing “Feeling” that something is wrong becomes constant and distracting to you. Intuition is rarely wrong.
41. You and your partner used to enjoy free-flowing conversation, but now you find yourself greeted with a mumbled “hello” at the end of the day, followed by stale and stagnant conversation for the rest of the evening. You notice that your partner has lost interest in sharing feelings, dreams and visions for your future together. You may find yourself literally sitting together on the couch all evening with very little attention being paid to you.
42. You may notice that the passenger side of the car is always adjusted, which doesn’t fit your normal seating pattern; or you may find strands of hair that do not belong to you or your children in the interior of the car.
43. You usually take family vacations together as a family, but he/she suddenly goes on a solo trip.
44. You throw a tantrum at the most benign and innocent of questions. You start walking on eggshells in bewilderment and are afraid to even approach your partner with questions.
45. Your joint bank accounts suddenly have less deposited into them or huge withdrawals have suddenly been made; without your mutual consent.
46. Google his or her name to find a MySpace or Facebook account they didn’t tell you about. On top of that, you start a Google search for famous screen names they’ve used in the past and find that they belong to sexual forums.
47. Likewise, you put his/her name or email address into a social media search engine and find him/her in places you never knew existed.
48. You discover a secret mailbox they rented out. On a related note, you may notice that incoming bills, especially credit card bills, no longer show up at the home address. Also note that he/she can also receive bills directly to his or her office instead of home.
49. You were once free to come and go on your home computer only to find that your spouse has set up a password-sensitive security system that you no longer have access to. He/she may create dual accounts on the same computer, but his/her account may suddenly become unavailable.
50. You notice that he/she has set up a remote desktop location account on the computer and is accessing another computer entirely from your home.
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